Models
$8
Here's the thing: Mark Manson of The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck fame, wrote a pickup book first. I thought very, very carefully before adding this book to the list for the simple reason of shame. Then I realised: why the fuck should I be ashamed? Because of the stigma? Fair enough. Virtually every book about this topic is filled with sexism, sleezy tactics and ascribes puffing yourself to be something you're not. The only relevant elements they convey are of evolutionary biology and aspects of hypergamy. Models is different. Whilst the function expliclity says how to attract women, it teaches you how to just be a better man. In high school, I was a vigin, mainly by merit of feeling inferior of being the poor kid that wore donated clothes, in a school full of rich kids, plus being slightly outcasted for being the straightest A student. I turned that around in university. I became a fuckboy. It took me a long time to realize that just fucking around and being a player was a facade constructed by my inferiority complex as a result of some truly shitty teenage years – a redemption. It wasn't until I read this book in my twenties that I changed. I realized I was hyper-anxious because of childhood trauma, that I was raised in a dysfunctional family plagued by repressed and unrepressed rage, and that my father was a brooding, depressed and broke person that couldn't teach me the basic values of being a good man. Models did a good job in turning that around. I faced the insecurities, and stopped dating for the sake of dating, and started dating for the sake of connecting with the opposite gender in a healthy way. I learned about working on myself in terms of style and honing in the importance of aesthetics which is something women do on a much greater scale and which merits our reciprocal effort, I learned the distinction between honest self-confidence as opposed to fake confidence and, most of all, I learned to be authentic and accept myself (including all the baggage from the past) and value myself and share myself with partners and potential partners. I'm proud of who I am today, dated great women as a result of this book (and not just sexy women), and for the first time was able to hold longer-term relationships not marred by toxicity. Feminists should encourage this book. And men should read it. No shame in reading this.
The 4-Hour Work Week: Escape the 9-5
$12
The 4-Hour Workweek changed my life. I knew deep inside that I just won't be satisfied in a career where I don't determine my own destiny, where the fruits of my labor aren't towards a project of my own devising. Even if you work in tech at a company with huge prospects, I knew it wasn't for me. It made me quit my job at a company that became a unicorn. Regrets? None. I just wasn't happy. Every fiber of my body wasn't happy. And although a lack of absolute focus and personal circumstances means I haven't reached that stage yet where I achieved something truly grand as of yet (a few failed businesses wholly attributable to personal and family issues, and one rather successful undertaking which briefly made me a millionaire before crashing down again, again because of my inability to hedge against personal life drama), I am 100% never beaten. This app is tangible proof of that. I want to extract the maximum fulfilment from this life by creating things of impact, and I will. And the 4-Hour Workweek was the initial trigger for that, along with introdudcing me to techniques and resources that averted me becoming a neurotic wreck. If you don't want to read this book because it seems too tacky, then lsiten to the Tim Ferriss podcast. Him, Lex Friedman and Joe Rogan are the indisputable heavy-weights in podcasting. Phenomanl and informative interviews with the likes of Eric Schmidt, Mark Zuckerberg, Lebron James etc. Also, Andrew Huberman credits his career traction to a very significant degree to TIm Ferriss.

Bettering oneself has never been easier. Designing a good life and fulfilling your calling requires you to know about your biochemistry, the pitfalls of your limited human mind/body, as well as the pitfalls of an external society that wants to place you in a very cramped box. Furthermore, it requires you to seek out spiritual narratives and mental models that propel you in the right direction.

With non-fiction it's important to filter out the biased, the woo-woo, and the shallow (which is unfortunately the majority of non-fiction). It's why I set up Favolist: so like-minded people can filter more quickly.